Some thoughts on a Thursday ☁️
This letter is for the super ambitious girls, the ones who never quite feel satisfied no matter how much they try. If this isn’t you that is absolutely okay, my mum always says if everyone was the same the world would be so boring.
The thing about being super ambitious is you’re never content. Everyone tells you to stay in jobs ( less so these days) for at least 2-3 years but you do a year and you’re ready to move on to the next thing. Or you constantly live in a cycle of not feeling like you’re doing enough and burning out because you did too much, too quickly. I know this because I have been feeling some of these things lately- wondering why the promotion I’m lowkey chasing at this point is eluding me or if I could/should be doing more with Kumu. Wondering if I am making a mistake by not exploring certain ideas. There is a never-ending chatter in my head about all the things I should be doing but I am not. This voice doesn’t seem to focus on all the things I am doing and all the things that are indeed going well.
I sent this text to my friend this week
“Do you think everyone is like us? Constantly at odds with our ideas and ambition, trying to balance it out in this deeply chaotic and capitalist world”
She replied to say probably not! I wonder what it must feel like to be content and deeply satisfied day to day. This won’t be one of those letters where I offer 10 steps to share how I’m dealing with this ongoing mental battle.
It’s a letter to say - I see you and I feel you, but also to say at the end of the day you can’t be everything before your time. If you feel yourself slipping into comparison then stop and reframe those thoughts. Remind yourself of your definition of success and tune out the social media frenzy!
These are the things I’m keeping in mind as I lure myself away from the incessant daydreams of what life would be like if I had unlimited time and money to explore all the things that are constantly swirling around in my head.
Maybe one day I will get the chance to focus fully on my passions and ideas but today is not that day. So my ambition will have to fuel the things that are already in my hand. It’s easy to focus on a tomorrow that exists only in your mind. The real test of ambition is what you’re doing today.
What are you dreaming of lately and how are you managing your ambition? Leave a comment or reply to the email! I love reading your replies
NOW THE FUN STUFF 💜
In line with today’s thoughts, celebrating failure might be a good place to start. Failing is not something I enjoy and not being perceived as perfect makes me uncomfortable but it’s part of the journey. This piece on celebrating failure might be a good place to start if you need to reframe your thoughts on this. - read here
Maybe it's just me but life really feels like one decision after another, I found this article on how to make decisions, according to decision coaches (there’s a coach for everything these days) quite helpful- read here
Self-care looks like sleep tips! - read here
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Sending good vibes & clarity
Fike 💜
I honor my ambition by recognizing that I may not be able to do it all, but there are things I can do each day that move the needle. Whether it is carving out 10 minutes in my day to journal to clear my mind and assess the state of my thought life, scheduling a call with a coach or spending an evening working on my newsletter. There are small ways to exercise my ambition each day. The truth is, too many of us get overwhelmed by our potential and the magnitude of what we could accomplish if not for time, money, access, etc. But then I think about God and how He sent Jesus to die on the cross at 33/34 years old. Surely, He could have done more with His time on Earth had He lived longer. But I think that tells us that it is not about ALL we can do, but it is about the impact we can create while we are here which comes from our daily practices.
I love this! The impact we can create while we are here comes from our daily practice 💜 thank you for sharing your thoughts